11.Curiosly alive

If I were to read “The Courage to be disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga a few years ago, not having lived through the experiences I did, I would have been impacted in a more impressive way. My mind would ahve been blown 💥 The year is 2024 when I am reading this, the world is segmented by the virtual cocoons we live in. These nests giving birth to different kinds of creatures. A world apparently free, wide, rich in opportunities of all sorts where anything can happen (apparently) but also crumbling into one flat sheet economically, culturally, spiritually. A bloody piece of land often. A world where beautiful things come to life too. The discussions around change, making things happen and the How would probably fill the whole universe with noise, BUT one thing is clear, we need to summon the power and actively work for good things to happen. Better yet, to build these universes of goodness in ourselves, before they could be set free in the external world. This book brought into memory situations I’ve been through, when I had to take hard decisions in full consciousness of the repercussions. Knowing that I was at a crossing and I needed to step forward, otherwise the banality, the darkness will eat my soul. So I went forward. And that was hard. But for some reason, I accepted the “hard” part of being alive since childhood, that is not hard for me. What’s hard is the possibility of disappointing people when I decide something different, when I feel something else, not as generally accepted. This book is making the thought of disappointing people weight less. It provides the framework to see things differently. There is a way to follow your calling and do things that are right, without caring the weight of “disappointing”. This way of thinking is liberating, freeing even. The book is written as a dialog, between a young person and a philosopher who is the adept of the Adlerian psychology. They talk about mundane situations, working with fear, with trauma, the conditions of becoming a valuable individual and seeing yourself as valuable; accepting responsibilities attached to the state of being alive in a society. Also, the fundamental realization that the past does not have to be such an overwhelming and negative effect on the present, but rather a starting point. The past is as knowledge to be used for a better Now. Somehow, this code of living is already mine, I have made it my own in time which means that I am also an Adlerian, a stoic 😃 I need a sincere, personal way of living if I am here in this live and have to live it. The stoics and their principles, this book provide great insight and valuable advice for anyone looking to live a life. I consider this way of experiencing life the truest, sincerest and most interesting.